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First person account: Naseer-Girija love story that lives on
Naseer: She was the best looking woman – beautiful and immaculately dressed. One day I met her at a point of time when she was passing through an emotional upheaval. I feared that she would break down and without losing time, I told her, “I love you, Girija.”

It was an early morning in London where both of us were studying. I offered to drop her at her hostel. The same day, while driving from college to her hostel, I even proposed marriage to her. Frankly, she was taken aback. We were already good friends and I was aware of her feelings for me. Girija took her time to say yes. With this began the mission – impossible at that time – to convince our parents to give their approval to our marriage. Back then, inter-faith marriages were a big deal, especially in small places like Kashmir.

Girija: I had taken my sweet time to agree to Naseer’s offer of marriage. He had flown down from Srinagar to London at least thrice to woo me. One thing that I knew that I was in love him and wanted to marry him.

The day of our wedding in London was the best day of my life.

We got married in the UK in the presence of our friends and my brother, who was a big support once we returned to Kashmir. I always knew that our marriage would be a difficult idea for people to accept in Kashmir and that it would hurt my family. In fact my family was shocked by my marriage. Though she was an ideal mom and also ahead of her time, my mother was quite upset with me.

Naseer was already famous and held in high esteem by everyone in his family.

Once we had returned home and my mother knew about my marriage she was angry. But she called Naseer and told him. “Naseer, please come and take your wife.”

At my home, we used to have religious ceremonies but I remember that children were never forced to follow religion, When it came to religion, Naseer was equally liberal.

Some well wishers had advised us that we should live in England and not go to a conservative place like Kashmir. But I was determined to return home and face the consequences of my decision. I never wanted my family to face the brunt for my decision. After my return, I worked in different hospitals including the SHMS hospital. Life was smooth. Nobody showed any hostility or disapproval. This was probably because both of us were professionals and our friends were mostly from upper crust of the society.

Naseer is a golfer while I love to play tennis.

He, indeed, is the most knowledgeable man I have ever met. He is up to date on all matters – politics, sports, movies, medical science or anything. I always found him ahead of me in many matters; he would have already accomplished what I was trying to achieve. This quality had made me fall in love with him.

Recently I watched, Hindi film in which the hero reunites a Pakistani mute girl with her family, yes “Bajrangi Bhaijan,” I loved it.

Every day, I go for walk on the banks of Dal lake. I see the young boys fishing or idling away. Today, I spoke to a few of them – they appeared to be in a state of confusion and some of them were probably on drugs. It is disturbing to see what politics and religion have done to our youth.

We have a daughter. When she was born she looked like an angel. On a friend’s suggestion we named her Angela Shah. She is a doctor in UK. We call her “Tina.”

My daughter is liberal, non religious and a free citizen of the world. Every year, we spend three or four months with her in the UK.

I believe since both of us are liberal human beings marriage was a good idea. I have no regrets, for we have lived a happy life together.

(Source: Humans of Kashmir)

News Updated at : Thursday, October 12, 2017
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